
Encourage, Equip, Empower
Each month our very own amazing writers from South Texas publish a series of blog posts written with you in mind. Our desire is to encourage, equip, and empower you through stories, experiences, and insights from our writers and from God’s Word.
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Press In
The word “prayer” tends to evoke images of demure bowed heads in a silent cathedral except for the low reverent hum of an organ thrumming out “Amazing Grace” in the background. I think that’s why so many people find it a hard concept to grasp. “How do I talk to God?” Sometimes, in church circles,…
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Hannah Prays
Are you a woman of prayer? This may seem like a loaded question, but this is something I’ve been asking myself lately. I used to keep a prayer journal with me and write in it every night before bed. I would pour my heart, soul and sometimes tears into those pages. After writing out my…
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A Father’s Love
Do you think it’s true that most women end up marrying men that share their father’s traits? Well, in my case I believe it. Both my father and husband are funny, always going back and forth with the “dad jokes”. They are both loving and affectionate. I’ve seen my father give a hug and kiss…
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Finding Myself in Judges 4

Photo by RF._.studio _ on Pexels.com Growing up, I had this image of what the “perfect” Christian woman looked like. Picture it: perfectly teased roller sets (no frizz in sight), dress suits that were perfectly pressed ALWAYS with nylons, and, to top it off, a spirit sweeter than honey and a home that practically sparkled with every step you took. And, of course, she never got angry with her children—ever. Her kids “rose and called her blessed” every morning while she humbly basked in the glory of her perfectly serene life.
Well, spoiler alert: I am not that woman.
I’m loud, I’m opinionated, I’m bold (sometimes to a fault), and my house? Let’s just say it looks like a small hurricane may have passed through. The idea of being the “perfect” woman with a calm, sweet spirit and a Pinterest-worthy home always felt more like trying to fit into a box that was too small—cramped and stifling, with no room to breathe. It was uncomfortable and just didn’t fit.
But now, I’m pretty sure God didn’t call me to be a cookie-cutter version of that “perfect” woman. In fact, He created each of us uniquely—and that’s not only okay, it’s beautiful.
A friend of mine—also a little less than perfect (thank God for that!)—sent me a video that really made me think. It showed the two types of women in women’s ministry: the Proverbs 31 woman and the Judges 4 woman. Most of us have heard of the Proverbs 31 woman; there are entire ministries dedicated to her, songs in which men express that she’s the kind of woman they’re looking for, so I won’t touch too much on her; instead, let’s look at the lovely ladies from Judges 4.
Meet Deborah
Deborah was a judge in Israel, and not in a quiet, passive way. No, she was bold, courageous, and ready to lead her people into battle. In Judges 4, Barak, the leader of the army, says, “Deborah, I need you to come with me to battle.” And she responds, “Oh, sure, I’ll come with you, but just so you know—this victory? It’s going to be a woman’s win, not yours.” (I can practically hear the sass in her voice right? Like, “Nice try, Barak!”)
And spoiler alert: Deborah’s prediction came true. God gave victory to Israel—but not through Barak. Instead, it was a woman who got the honor of delivering the final blow to the enemy.
Meet Jael
But hold up, Deborah wasn’t the only woman in Judges 4 making waves. Let’s talk about Jael, because she is next level. While Deborah was leading armies, Jael was—well, let’s just say she wasn’t exactly being quiet. Jael finished off the enemy commander, Sisera, by driving a tent spike through his temple.
Yes, you read that right: a tent spike through the temple. Talk about “I’ve got this” energy. It’s not exactly the kind of thing you’d put on a Christian T-shirt, but it’s definitely powerful.
What ties these women together is their boldness, strength, and refusal to conform to society’s idea of what a woman should be. God didn’t ask Deborah or Jael to fit the mold of the perfect, quiet, mild-mannered woman. No, He called them to be exactly who He created them to be. And that’s a lesson we all need to learn.
There Is No “Typical” Christian Woman
This brings me back to me—and maybe to you, too. There’s no such thing as a “typical” Christian woman. God made us all different, and He delights in those differences. Whether you’re an opinionated, bold, loud-mouthed woman like me or a gentler-spirited woman who is the epitome of grace, wisdom, and strength, managing her home and life with quiet excellence and unwavering devotion like some of my friends, you are exactly who God created you to be. There’s no one-size-fits-all here, and that’s the beauty of the body of Christ.
We aren’t called to blend in with some Instagram version of perfection. We’re called to embrace our God-given identity, loudness, boldness, and all. We’re a beautiful, imperfect mess, and that’s precisely what God wants us to be.
So, the next time someone tries to “fix” you, or you catch yourself comparing your imperfect self to the Proverbs 31 woman, remember: God made you exactly as you are for a reason. There’s nothing wrong with aspiring to be like her—her wisdom, strength, and devotion are admirable qualities! But if trying to fit into that mold doesn’t feel like you, that’s okay. God isn’t asking you to be someone He didn’t create you to be. Whether you’re leading an army, organizing your life with spreadsheets (I see you), or just trying to make it through the day in jeans and a T-shirt—God can use it all. And hey, maybe one day we’ll all have our “rise up and call her blessed” moment—preferably after a little more coffee and after 9 a.m.

Being confident in who God created you to be allows you to live with audacious faith because it frees you from the pressure to conform and empowers you to embrace the unique way God has designed you. When you step into your true, unfiltered self, you can take bold steps of faith that reflect your individuality, trusting that God can use all of you—quirks, strengths, and all—to impact the world.
Author: Tracie Tevault
Tracie Tevault is a recent addition to the STXWM blog team, and she’s excited to share her journey and connect with others through her writing. Married for 15 years to her best friend, Tracie is raising one awesome son and three spoiled cats who definitely rule the house. With a heart for ministry, Tracie has served in many areas, but her true passion lies in reaching those who might not fit the traditional church mold. She’s all about showing people they are loved, valued, and created with a purpose. Quirky, loud, and always ready for a good laugh, Tracie brings a fun-loving energy to everything she does. When she’s not writing or serving, you’ll find her hanging out with her family, discovering her newest crafting hyper fixation, and finding inspiration from God in the everyday moments.
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Sarah: A Story of Audacious Faith

In honor of Valentine’s Day, my husband and I, along with my parents, were asked to be guests on his and his buddy’s podcast. We participated in a Newlywed type of game show via livestream. Our friend had each couple play silly games, such as grabbing 3 random items from our houses and seeing if our spouse could recognize the symbolism of love behind them. We also did have to answer questions about our spouses. Well, one of the questions was: “What Biblical couple are you most like?” At first this question caught me off guard, but after a few seconds (because that’s all the time we were given), I knew the perfect couple- Abraham and Sarah. Not that I was calling my husband and I an old married couple, but their story was very similar to ours; having to leave a city we know and loved and having to start over. We even had to wait years into our marriage before we could grow our family, too. I’ve had to fight my share of disappointment and doubt, while finding ways to manage my mental health.
Sarah is mostly known for her twenty-five year wait for her son, but her journey of faith is not just about the miraculous birth of Isaac. Her journey spans a lifetime of trials, doubts, and ultimately, unwavering trust in God’s promises. Through Sarah’s story (Gen. 11- 23), we all can learn how to embrace audacious faith in our lives, even when circumstances seem too great.
The Journey Begins
Sarah’s story begins in the land of Ur, where she lived with her husband, Abraham. Their life took a dramatic turn when God called Abraham to leave their homeland and journey to an unknown land. Sarah, despite not knowing the destination or the trials ahead, supported her husband and embarked on this journey, demonstrating an incredible faith in God’s plan.
Life in Canaan
Upon reaching Canaan, Sarah and Abraham faced numerous challenges. They were foreigners in a strange land, and their faith was constantly tested. One of the most significant tests was the promise that God made to Abraham—that he would be the father of many nations (Gen. 12:1-3). This promise seemed impossible, as Abraham was seventy-five and Sarah was sixty-five. Yet, despite the impossibility, they continued to trust in God’s plan.
The Doubts and the Waiting
Years passed without any sign of the promised child, and Sarah’s faith wavered. In a moment of doubt, she suggested that Abraham have a child with her maid, Hagar, which led to the birth of Ishmael. This decision brought apprehension and conflict into their household, but it also highlighted Sarah’s humanity—she struggled with doubts, just like any of us would. Yet, even in her doubt, she remained committed to God’s promise.
The Promise Fulfilled
When Sarah was ninety years old, God made good on His promise, and Sarah conceived Isaac. This miraculous event is often the highlight of her story, showcasing God’s faithfulness and power. Isaac’s birth was not just a fulfillment of a personal promise to Sarah and Abraham; it was a testament to God’s unique plan for humanity. Through Isaac, the lineage of Christ was established, bringing hope to a broken world.
Faith in Action
Sarah’s story doesn’t end with the birth of Isaac. Her faith continued to be tested in various ways. One significant event was the binding of Isaac, where Abraham was asked to sacrifice their long-awaited son. Although the Bible doesn’t describe Sarah’s feelings during this trial, we can gather that her faith was intertwined with her husband’s. Once again, because of their fervent obedience, God blesses them with a ram (Gen. 22:1-19).
Lessons from Sarah’s Faith
Sarah’s journey teaches us several key lessons about audacious faith:
- Trust in God’s Timing: Sarah’s story reminds us that God’s timing is perfect, even when it doesn’t align with our expectations. Despite years of waiting, God fulfilled His promise to Sarah in a miraculous way.
- Faith Amidst Doubt: Sarah’s moment of doubt with Hagar shows us that it’s okay to struggle with faith. God understands our humanity, and he is patient and forgiving.
- Supporting Others in Faith: Throughout her journey, Sarah supported her husband in his faith. This mutual support strengthened their trust in God and His promises.
- Enduring Trials with Faith: Sarah’s life was filled with trials, but her faith endured. She trusted God through the uncertainties and hardships, ultimately witnessing His faithfulness (Heb. 11:11-12).

Just as Sarah’s faith was tested in various ways, we too face challenges that require audacious faith. Whether it’s financial struggles, health concerns, career paths, or supporting loved ones, we can draw inspiration from Sarah’s story. Her unwavering trust in God encourages us to surrender our worries and doubts to Him.
1 Peter 5:7 – Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.
In today’s fast-paced world, we often find ourselves overwhelmed by the pressures of daily life. But like Sarah, we can choose to trust in God’s promises. He knows our struggles and is faithful to provide, heal, guide, and fulfill His promises. Audacious faith means stepping out of our comfort zones, even when we don’t see the immediate results. My husband and I didn’t know where God was calling us to move or when we would get that positive pregnancy test, but God did. Sometimes audacious faith means believing in God’s goodness and His perfect timing.
Let’s remember Sarah’s journey. Let’s embrace audacious faith in every aspect of our lives, trusting that God will lead us, provide for us, and fulfill His promises in ways beyond our imagination. Let us pray with unwavering trust, knowing that just as God was faithful to Sarah, He will be faithful to us.
Hebrews 11:1– Now faith is confidence in what we hope for and assurance about what we do not see.
P.S. In case you were wondering, we won the Newlywed Game! Sorry, Mom and Dad.

Melinda Brown is a mother, co-pastor, entrepreneur, and now she can add author to her ever growing list of gifts. She and her husband, Jason, pastor Columbus Community Church in South East Texas and now, Melinda has agreed to come on board as one of our newest authors on the STXWM Blog Team. Her heart is to share the love of Jesus through her writing and to tell the world of the healing and comfort that can be found in a relationship with the Lord.
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Ruth- Audacious Faith to GO

As a global worker living overseas, a foreigner making my home in a foreign land, I’m grateful for the story of Ruth. She understood the challenges of having a cross-cultural family, of uprooting and re-planting, of learning how to find her identity not in a place, but in God.
Ruth grew up in Moab, a land that happened to fare well during a time of famine in Israel. When an Israelite family of four from Bethlehem moved to Moab to escape the famine, Ruth was courted by one of their two sons. After the husband and both sons of the family died, Ruth and her mother-in-law and sister-in-law were the only ones that remained.
After hearing that the Lord had blessed the land of Judah with good crops, Naomi, Ruth’s mother-in-law, decided to return home to Bethlehem. What was home for Ruth’s mother-in-law was not home for Ruth, but out of love and commitment to her family, Ruth packed her bags to go with Naomi back to Judah.
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Over ten years ago the Lord began to stir in my heart that He was calling us to a people that we did not know, to a place we had never been, to make our home on foreign soil. Although we had traveled outside of the United States a handful of times, we had never stepped foot in the country we said “yes” to moving to.
When we told people we were going to move to this little country in Southeast Asia most people have never heard of, the most common question was “are you taking your kids?” Although it struck me as funny that people would think we’d just leave our 8, 6, and 4 year old here and go without them (“Bye, guys, good luck with elementary school and puberty, we’ll see you in a few years!”) I understood that they were concerned for our family’s welfare, especially that of our children. It’s a big ask and a big sacrifice our kids make, to leave everything they know and make their home in a new land.
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As they headed toward Judah, Naomi recognized the significance of the sacrifice her daughters-in-law were making, and she gave them her permission and blessing to stay in their motherland and re-marry. Ruth and her sister-in-law wept at the thought of leaving Naomi, and begged to continue on with her. Eventually, Orpah, the other daughter-in-law, decided to stay behind, but Ruth held onto Naomi and said,
“Don’t ask me to leave you and turn back. Wherever you go, I will go; wherever you live, I will live. Your people will be my people, and your God will be my God.” (Ruth 1:16)
Ruth valued her relationship with Naomi more than roots; she prioritized commitment over comfort.
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I remember at one point as we were preparing to leave, a sweet lady in our congregation said, “You know, you don’t have to do this. You can stay here and continue ministry. You don’t have to go.” While we were surprised by this sweet saint’s comment, we knew it came from a heart of concern and compassion. She loved us, and she wanted us to be safe. Just like Naomi told her daughters-in-law that it was ok if they didn’t go with her, we were told that it was ok if we stayed put, stayed comfortable, stayed safe.
But God doesn’t call us to be safe, He calls us to be surrendered.
Just like Ruth, God was asking us to prioritize our relationship with Him more than our roots, to prioritize commitment to His call over comfort. And in our willingness to do so, He has proven Himself to be faithful to walk with us every step of the journey as we’ve made our home in an unfamiliar land, learned an unfamiliar language, studied an unfamiliar culture, and trusted that sometimes we must be willing to make His people— even ones from another culture and country— our people, too.
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As we read in the book of Ruth, the journey of faith she decided to take with her mother-in-law to Judah would be one that would bring redemption to Naomi’s family name, love and acceptance to this young widow, and a place in the lineage of Jesus to an outsider. It was not an easy journey, and Ruth likely had many moments of wondering if and how things would work out.
She didn’t wait until Naomi could share all the details of how the Lord would provide for them before saying “yes” to going. In fact, Naomi was in a low place emotionally and spiritually, so Ruth likely felt a sense of responsibility to be a support and comfort to Naomi. We shouldn’t forget that Ruth was grieving her own loss— the loss of a husband and hope of a family— as she also lost her sense of rootedness and belonging. There was much uncertainty in Ruth’s future, but she still went.
Sometimes God’s invitation to GO comes at unlikely times, to unlikely people, with unlikely outcomes.
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Ten years after the Lord first invited us to GO, we find ourselves still making our home on foreign soil, living as guests in a country not our own, but deeply in love with the people and place He has led us to. Like Ruth, we have had many moments that the timing and details just didn’t make sense to us. He didn’t give us the full picture when He invited us to GO, and we still have to choose daily to live and walk by faith, believing that our “yes” will bring about redemption in the lives of those He has called us to.
Like Ruth, we are learning day by day not to find our identity in a place, but in our God.
by Heather F.

Ruth’s decision to say “yes” to an invitation to GO to a foreign land was audacious. Today, God is still extending that invitation; many people groups around the world still have no access to the gospel unless someone is willing to go to them and share it. As an act of audacious faith today, I invite you to pray this prayer and ask the Lord if perhaps He is calling you to GO.
Lord, I admit that the idea of moving to a foreign land sounds hard and scary. I don’t feel like I am cut out for something like that. But I also know that You equip those You call, and You are faithful to bless our obedience. Today, in humility and surrender, I offer myself to You and want You to know that I am willing to go if you’re calling me. Give me a heart for foreign people and foreign lands, and let my ears be attentive to Your Spirit speaking to me. If You call me, I will go.
Amen
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Mary-(John 12:1-8)

Photo by Pixabay on Pexels.com I love Springtime. The grass seems greener, the trees are fuller, and fresh flowers seem precariously scattered in fields, gardens, and almost everywhere there isn’t consistent foot traffic. After a long, cold winter and a season filled with joy and so many events and activities, I look forward to the spring and the gradual ease back into routine. I have even spent this beautiful time of year in Israel, where our featured woman of the bible spotlight takes place.
I love the various mentions of Mary and Martha in scripture. Maybe because they are almost always mentioned together and, like them, my sister and I were inseparable before adult life took over. With only two years between us, our mother dressed us the same, we shared similar interests, and we shadowed one another almost everywhere. One crucial difference between my sister and me, which Mary and her sister also shared, is our personalities and the way we interact with the world, has always been very different.
Mary tends to be known for the woman who sat at Jesus’ feet while he preached and shared, while Martha tended to the hospitality tasks. I have always longed to be more like Mary; desiring and delighting in dwelling at the feet of Jesus no matter what else needed doing. But alas, I just am not. I am an over planner who loves to think and make lists and plans, then contingencies for each plan, then bite my nails, and stress until whatever it is, is over. Then, I take a deep breath and wish I had just enjoyed myself more. Can you relate?
As we enter the season leading up to the death of Jesus, the bible gives us a dinner party. John 12 begins with a dinner presumably in honor of Jesus, who had recently raised Lazarus from the dead; arguably one of the biggest reasons the Pharisees now sought more than ever to have Jesus killed. Verse two tells us they had made him a supper and it is safe to assume the atmosphere was one of great joy and celebration, especially for Lazarus’ sisters. I want to zoom in on verse three. “Then Mary took a pound of very costly oil of spikenard, anointed the feet of Jesus, and wiped His feet with her hair. And the house was filled with the fragrance of the oil.”
Have you ever diffused oils? Or perhaps broken a perfume bottle? Have you ever spilled a pound of oil? If you have, you know it is not only highly fragrant but does not wipe up easily. It takes persistence and patience to work all the oil out of whatever surface it covers. I once broke a half liter of olive oil in my kitchen and as I cried and cleaned it up the Lord brought this scripture to my mind.
Culturally, it wouldn’t be strange if someone had washed Jesus’ feet when he arrived at the dinner party. However, in John 12, it tells us of them reclining at the table, and then verse three immediately says, “Mary therefore took a pound of very costly oil…” We can assume that as the meal was being enjoyed or at the very least directly after it had concluded, Mary was overcome with love and gratefulness to Jesus that she lowered herself to the dirty floor, poured expensive oil on his traveler’s weary feet, unbound her hair, and wiped his feet.
This was truly the most incredible gift Mary could have given Jesus. More than her attention, this is an act of devotion. Judas commented that this oil was worth about a year’s wages. Can you imagine liquifying a year’s worth of your income and then being in a room full of people getting down on your knees to pour out those wages onto someone’s feet and then using your hair to mop it up? A Jewish woman acting like this is unheard of, but Mary wasn’t just any Jewish woman and this expensive act of devotion wasn’t the first time she had acted counter culturally. I pray this over all you precious women reading this. I pray for this kind of uncalculated, humble, extravagantly audacious faith over us all. No matter what culture says is acceptable or too far or too expensive, may we all learn from Mary here and, out of utter devotion, fall to our knees and worship our savior with all that we have and all that we are.
I want you to think about your hair saturated with oil like Mary’s. No matter if you took a shower or five, the fragrance would linger. Mary and Jesus would both smell of this decadent oil in the days leading up to his death and after. Every time the wind would blow and her hair would sneak out of her veil, the reminder of her devotion would rise like the fragrance on the wind. I can imagine as Mary grieved Jesus’ death she would be able to smell the oil and vividly remember that just a week prior she had celebrated with him. Mary’s devotion left its mark and all who were around her could not only see it, but smell it. I wonder how long the smell lingered. I wonder if, years later, whenever she would smell that same perfumed oil again, if the smell would transport her mind back to that dinner party where she lovingly cradled her savior’s feet and anointed them with all she had. May we also have a deep devotion for Jesus that is as inviting to all around us as it is fragrant.
MaKenzie V.
As I have been spending time with the Lord this morning, the song “More Than Enough” has been playing repeatedly. The version I am listening to today is performed by the Brooklyn Tabernacle Choir. I have loved this song for years for all the ways it reminds me of what God has done for me. “Jehovah Jireh, my Provider. Jehovah Rapha, you are my Healer. Jehovah Shamah, you are with me. You supply all my needs. You are more than enough for me.” But today, I reflected on that last line the most: “You are more than enough for me.”
When Mary kneeled at the feet of Jesus, Martha let it be known that there was plenty of work to do and that it wasn’t fair that her sister was leaving her to do it all. I can definitely identify with Martha. There were people over, for crying out loud! Things needed to be cooked, cleaned, organized, served! And there was Mary, sitting on the floor.
But what Mary had discovered that Martha was missing was that nothing else mattered in that moment. No one else’s opinion. No one else’s comfort. Nothing mattered to her but that she was able to worship at the feet of her Savior.
When my kids were little they would come to me with arms outstretched and say “Hold you, Momma?” Nothing would stop me from turning to them immediately to pick them up and hold them even if I could only spare a moment or two. This interaction wasn’t about me at all. It was about them. It was about showing them that they were my first priority. It was about showing them that my attention could be caught by them at a moment’s notice. That if they called, I would show up.
This is what Mary was communicating to Jesus. We often read this story and compare the behaviors of Mary and Martha but this story isn’t about them. Mary was practically screaming at us through the ages “it’s about Him!” She didn’t care that Martha was mad. She didn’t care that Judas told her it was a waste. She didn’t care about anyone but Jesus.
I want Jesus to be so much “more than enough” that no one else’s opinion or words matter to me. So much “more than enough” that I cannot be deterred from worshiping my Savior immediately, loudly, audaciously.
Recently, I discovered that I have allowed myself to be hindered by the absence of certain people in my life being proud of me. I had never realized before that I had allowed the opinions of some people to erode my confidence. A dear friend said to me, “Stephanie, Jesus is proud of you. Isn’t that enough?” It broke my heart because I realized that I had not been allowing Jesus to be enough for me in this area. I was allowing my contentment and my confidence to hinge on the approval of someone other than the God of the universe. Since then I have been seeking out time to sit with Jesus and ask him to help me understand how He sees me.
I want to sit at His feet like Mary without concern for the opinions or comments of others. I want to worship more than others think is necessary because I know that it could truly never be enough.
Stephanie S.

King Jesus, we are grateful that your word has beautiful examples of women with audacious faith that we can look to and learn from even now. Thank you for the example of Mary and Martha and for the love you showed to them both. Give us the courage to extravagantly love you no matter who else is in the room or at the table. I ask that you give us the boldness to use what you have given us, our personalities, our positions, or even our hair to worship you. Maranatha. ~MaKenzie
Jesus, today we want to sit at your feet and allow our tears, our talents, our hearts to pour at your feet all the worship that you are worthy of. We want to say to you that you are worthy of our praise because of who you are. You have done so much for us but if you had never done anything but love us, you would be worthy of our praises. It is because you love us that you are our Healer, our Provider; You are more than enough! We love you and today we bring all that we have to tell you. You are worthy of our praise. Let the fragrance of our worship be pleasing and acceptable in your sight, O God. (Psalm 141:2)~Stephanie
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“But the Greatest of these is Love” (Agape)

Photo by Pixabay on Pexels.com “For God so LOVED the world, that He gave His only Son, that whosoever believes in Him would not perish but have everlasting life.” John 3:16
I have recited this verse for as long as I can remember, and for just as long, I have been in awe of the idea of a Love that would give away His own Son to die for my sins. I think that idea is probably universally awe-inspiring for those who believe it. In sermons about this verse, I have heard pastors assert that as much as they love their congregants, they would not give their own children as a sacrifice for their sins, and as a mother, I would have to agree. My children are precious to me; much more precious to me than someone else’s child.
This all made me want to understand the concept of Agape (unconditional love) more clearly. First of all, the word “unconditional” seems a little impossible to attain in our human efforts. Webster’s dictionary says that unconditional means absolute, pure, not stopping, complete, definite, consummate (to the highest degree). I cannot say with confidence that the love I have experienced from myself or others meets every one of these qualifications to render it to be “unconditional.”
When researching the use of the Greek word “agape,” theologians state that it is used somewhere between 120 and 200 times in the New Testament. God spent more time explaining unconditional love to us than any other form of the word. Many of those references refer to God’s command to us to love Him first and to then love each other. Mark 12:30-31 “And you must love the Lord your God with all your heart, all your soul, all your mind and all your strength. The second is equally important: Love your neighbor as yourself. No other commandment is greater than these.” But the vast majority by far are to let us know how deep and how wide the love of God is for us.
The famous “Love Chapter” (1 Corinthians 13) describes how our Father, the Creator of the universe, loves us and calls for us to love others with the same passion and zeal. 1 Corinthians 12 is all about the ways in which the Holy Spirit gifts people to encourage and work in the body of Christ. It is all about spiritual giftings that edify the body and move believers to become active in their faith. Then along comes chapter 13, in which Paul begins by saying (paraphrase) that the gifts of the Spirit are worthless without the motivation of selfless love. God honors Christ-like love given by the Holy Spirit higher than ministry, faith, or the possession or use of any spiritual gift. Unconditional (Agape) love must be the rich soil from which all other talents, programs, and actions grow, or else they are meaningless, no matter how well-funded or well-planned they may be. Ministry efforts that are not founded and built on love are doomed to fail because without love they cannot hope to fulfill the purposes of God.
I desire to truly grasp what this love is. I want to understand this limitless, incomprehensible love with which God pours Himself out for me, and I want to understand how to become more like Jesus by pouring that love out for others. 1 Corinthians 13: 4-7 shows us that this love is described as an action, a behavior, a choice rather than an inner feeling. These characteristics (these choices) describe God in all three persons.
4 Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud 5 or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. 6 It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. 7 Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.
What an incredible narrative of God’s great agape love for us. Is He not patient and kind with us? He does not behave like an insecure lover, punishing us with rudeness or silence. He has offered us a way that is best for us, but it is a road we can choose to walk if we want to. He does not demand our love and attention. Who would want love that was forced? He is not moody and unpredictable, causing us to walk on eggshells to be sure we do not “set Him off.” He wants an honest and open relationship with us, even when we are not at our best. When (not if) we wrong Him, He then casts our sins as far as the east is from the west and remembers them no more (Psalm 103:12). He is not happy when we are in pain or when we become victims of the evil inflicted by others. He has compassion for us, even in our sins. Truth, though sometimes painful, sets us free. He rejoices in the freedom, not the pain, even when we are not in a right relationship with Him. He never rejoices in our pain. As the father in the parable of the prodigal son, God watches for us to return every day that we are gone. He always expects the best from us even when we repeatedly give Him our worst, and He never throws us away. He never gets sick of hoping and wanting a relationship with us. What an amazing love! I feel overwhelmed by the sheer capacity of it.
With something so beautiful, how, then, are people so capable of getting it wrong sometimes? I shudder to remember times when this very passage has been used as a weapon against our brothers and sisters. The very definition of grace and acceptance has been used to excuse injustice and wrong. We have talked about all the beautiful and limitless ways that God loves us. Let me not fail to address what Agape love is not.
Love is not transactional. It is not given in exchange for what purpose someone can serve another or to ensure correct behavior. If our love comes in exchange for our perception of righteousness in others, it is a perversion of the love God has demonstrated to us. Romans 5:8 tells us that He demonstrated His love for us in that while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us. He required nothing in exchange for the love He gave us. Love is not blind. Love is not wandering in the dark without knowledge of the true character of who He loves. Love rejoices in the truth! God’s love knows us completely. Love does not avoid accountability. Love does not excuse or tolerate abuse in the name of “enduring all things.” To use it in such a way is twisting God’s word in order to manipulate people’s behavior. Love is not immature and punishing, but it also does not stay and tolerate infidelity. God said in Exodus 34:14 that He is jealous God. He is not petty, but He also does not stay in monogamous relationship with people who are unfaithful. This is the example that God sets for us. Love is not blind or silent when faced with a person being victimized. Being “always hopeful” and never giving up is not a license to turn a blind eye to evil when people are harming others. Does God love the perpetrator of abuse? Yes! He loves them enough to want to see them corrected, and He certainly loves victims enough to want to see them safe and loved rightly. Love certainly forgives and forgives instantly once forgiveness is sought, but love teaches us to trust with wisdom and to see people restored appropriately over time. Love is a gift of God that is given, but trust must be proven.
Love covers a multitude of sins (1 Peter 4:8), but it does not make us blind and deaf to wisdom. Love and wisdom go hand in hand because both are given by the Holy Spirit. God desires us all to walk in relationship with Him, and in His great love, He allows us to choose.

God, thank you for loving me and giving me an example to follow in loving others. Thank you that your love holds me close and is protective of me. Help me to be your hands and feet to others, reaching out in love rather than judgement. Help me to accept your love and to truly understand what you see when you look at me. Adjust my vision to see others the same way. I love you, Lord!

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