
Encourage, Equip, Empower
Each month our very own amazing writers from South Texas publish a series of blog posts written with you in mind. Our desire is to encourage, equip, and empower you through stories, experiences, and insights from our writers and from God’s Word.
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Joy Beyond Understanding
“ But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law.” Galatians 5:22-23 Summertime in the South is not for the faint of heart. Temperatures that soar to unbearable heights, iced tea that can’t seem to stay iced, and leather car interior that is torture whenever you get in…
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Peace in a Wild Workplace
I do not work in a church. I am involved in ministry full-time, but I also work a secular job to provide for my family. I don’t care where you work, whether it be in a church or out; if you work with people, it can be difficult. Feeling called to ministry, I have asked…
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Peace In the Wild
When I think about the phrase “peace in the wild,” I picture a leopardess in the middle of a jungle. I imagine the sound of monkeys hooting in the background while she cleans her paws. She’s laying down, feeling peaceful, she’s not worried about where her next meal will come from. She’s not anxious about…
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Bereaved Mother’s Day

by MaKenzie V.
Mother’s Day is just around the corner, and some women look forward to it with excitement, some with longing, and others with dread.
Growing up, Mother’s Day was only ever a celebration in our home untouched by grief or sorrow. When I became a wife and a hopeful mother, I saw the day differently. Some years it was a milestone. “I hope I’m pregnant before Mother’s Day this year!” Some years it snuck up and unassuming relatives or friends would ask, “Why aren’t you a mom yet?”
Mother’s Day could be a time of joy and thankfulness that is also tinted with the sorrow of who is missing from our lives. Perhaps our mother or mother figure has passed away and the day brings tears of sadness mixed with joy associated with what we once had. Or maybe Mother’s Day is a reminder of what we don’t have or who we don’t hold in our arms.
Before I buried my firstborn, I had never heard of “Bereaved Mother’s Day.” It is celebrated (or acknowledged is perhaps a better word) the week before Mother’s Day each May. It is a day that is historically young, only being founded in 2010 after a mother delivered her stillborn son and longed to hold space for other mothers who have experienced loss to feel vulnerable and safe.
This sacred day is for those whose mothers have passed, whose child(ren) have gone before them, or for women who are walking through infertility.
I have always loved to stand out. I have a loud voice, a big personality, and a laugh that can be heard all throughout a building— I also wish I didn’t qualify for this day. I wish I didn’t feel like an imposter on Mother’s Day because my firstborn isn’t here and it took me so long to bring a healthy, living, breathing child earth-side. I wish bereaved anything didn’t have to exist. But it does. We exist: the sorrowful, the grieving, the brokenhearted. And in so many ways we feel set apart and alone, apart from all the “other mothers.”
As we are set apart, so is our Creator Himself, for He knows the pain of losing a child- His Son, His only begotten Son, our Savior Jesus Christ. It’s no wonder why throughout scripture we can see God’s tenderness for those who walk hand in hand with Sorrow and Grief.
“The Lord draws near to the brokenhearted. He saves the crushed in spirit.” Psalm 34:18
“Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn.” Romans 12:15
The Old and New Testament alike show God’s heart for His hurting children. Let’s be like our Father. Let’s pick up the mantle to not only draw near to the brokenhearted, but to actively weep and mourn with them, to sit at gravesides and don sackcloth and ashes, to show our sisters who are downtrodden that we as the body of Christ will not allow them to grieve alone.
God doesn’t always offer answers to our situations, but His presence is never lacking. In joy, grief, celebration, or any circumstance, God’s Word says He is with us, our refuge and strength, our hope and defender.
I love what former British Prime Minister Benjamin Disraeli said about sorrow: “Sweet is the voice of a sister in a season of sorrow.” If you’re wondering what words to offer a bereaved mother, know that no platitude could ever replace our mere presence or gentle acknowledgment of their pain. “I see you and I stand by you,” is more than enough, said in either words or actions.
King Jesus, at times our emotions pull us down more than we can bear. We can feel alone in a sea of people and abandoned in our own congregations when our grief is seemingly ignored or our loss forgotten. But You are the One who always sees us, always hears us, and will never lie or forsake us. To You we run with open arms and vulnerable hearts. We grasp Your hand as Mother’s Day approaches and we trust that whatever emotion tries to distract us, You will weather each storm with us. To You be all honor and glory. Amen.

MaKenzie V. is a global worker who has faithfully been serving the unreached in the Arab World while growing her family. Almost every moment of the day is spent chasing Jesus and her toddlers- usually with a cup of hot tea or coffee in hand. She enjoys learning languages, deep belly laughs, and connecting with others where God has them.
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“Leaning into the Unknown”

by Davida Freeze
“There is so much more I want to tell you, but you can’t bear it now.”
-Jesus, John 16:12 NLT
If you are like me, you don’t naturally enjoy ambiguity or the lack of clarity. I don’t know many adults who do! But having the opportunity to live outside of our western culture allows me to see more clearly what I am made of by seeing something different to compare myself to. I have learned that planning an event, organizing a schedule, and even giving directions in an African context is riddled with ambiguity and very different than my expectations.
After living many years in Africa, I have noticed how much we as westerners are information-driven. This can be something small, such as feeling the frustration that comes with not knowing how to say, “How much are these tomatoes?” Or it can be more serious, like wondering yet again if the persecuted believers among us will be delivered and returned safely or if they will lose their lives for their testimony. Those two extremes may not seem comparable, but if I’m being honest, they each grate on me, wearing me down as my flesh cries out for clarity and understanding.
Though your experiences may be different, maybe you have also noticed the need for information.
“What did she mean by that look?”
“Is this the right career choice?”
“How do I best parent my child through this situation they are facing?”
Much of our longing for information comes from a pure heart. However, I have noticed how quickly my heart can go from curiosity and a desire for discernment to what has been labeled “information idolatry.” After all, it is much easier to walk in grace when I have understanding. When someone briskly pushes past me, I tend to not have much grace…until I hear they are responding to a family medical emergency. I can easily feel judged when a colleague makes a comment comparing her giftings to mine…until I learn she has really been struggling with insecurity and trying to find her footing in a new role. Information can help activate grace. This makes it easy to understand why we’re so bent on getting information! Unfortunately, that’s not always possible.
As I reflect on this challenge to maintain balance in times of ambiguity, my mind is drawn to the disciples during a time of great confusion. They watched their Rabbi being crucified and they suffered extreme disappointment and loss. The crushing grief and confusion during the hours between the crucifixion and resurrection are difficult to fully grasp this side of Easter. But the picture didn’t immediately become clear once Christ was raised from the dead. The weeks between His resurrection and the day of Pentecost were filled with moments where these followers who would become pillars of the Church were still lacking clarity on Christ and His mission. Thomas doubted, the men on the road to Emmaus were slow to recognize, even His closest followers didn’t immediately recognize the voice of Jesus as He beckoned to them from the shore to throw the net on the other side of the boat!
And yet, Jesus still appeared to them.
He continued calling them by name and gave them bite-sized pieces of the story. Little by little, they began to grasp the bigger picture and understand “all He had said” (John 14:26).
This is not the way I would have decided to do it. From the time His ministry began, I would have assumed Jesus would clearly lay out the game plan and give His followers a mind to understand. He “opened their minds to understand the scriptures” in Luke 24:45 with the men on the road to Emmaus. Why couldn’t He do that earlier? Wouldn’t that have been easier on everyone?
We now sit in the days between Easter and Pentecost Sunday and I’m challenged again to celebrate the things that are uncertain, unclear, and confusing in my life as an opportunity to wait with eyes of faith for the Lord. “Those who wait on the Lord will renew their strength…” (Isaiah 40:31). While we want to be women of discernment, diligently seeking the Lord’s direction, we also want to be found faithfully waiting on Him when things are ambiguous and confusing. Before the healing comes, before the answer is clear, what we do in those moments matter significantly in God’s eyes.
May we be women who lean into the unknown…with faith, hope, and love.
Davida was born in Texas but moved to Washington State to complete her Master’s degree in Counseling from Northwest University. After returning to Texas in 2007, she served faithfully at her local church and taught at Lonestar College until God called her overseas in 2014. She has now lived in East Africa for 10 years, learning what it means to be a single female follower of Jesus among Muslim people. No matter her job, role or status, she sees her life mission is to “know Him and make Him known.”

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Altering Our Altitude
”Your servant has found favor in your eyes, and you have shown great kindness to me in sparing my life. But I can’t flee to the mountains; this disaster will overtake me, and I’ll die.“ (Genesis 19:19 NIV)
Lot refused to live at the right elevation.
I’m still marinating in Genesis with my Upper Zoom friends and we’ve spent the last few weeks with Lot in Sodom. It’s really not the right scripture for the Christmas season, but nevertheless we persisted.
The thing about crawling through a book of the Bible together is that you have time to make connections you might never notice at a faster pace. This week, I realized that Lot and Abraham were living at entirely different elevations. Physically and spiritually.
If you flip back to their parting of ways in Genesis 13 you’ll see that Lot took the low territory.
”Lot looked around and saw that the whole plain of the Jordan toward Zoar was well watered, like the garden of the Lord, like the land of Egypt. (This was before the Lord destroyed Sodom and Gomorrah.)“
(Genesis 13:10 NIV)Plains are low places by definition, but geography makes the plains around the Jordan River and the Dead Sea to be the very lowest on earth. The lakes surface lies 1400 feet below sea level!
Abraham, in the other hand, took the high ground. We see this in chapter 19, but also when we look at a map.
”He looked down toward Sodom and Gomorrah, toward all the land of the plain, and he saw dense smoke rising from the land, like smoke from a furnace.“ (Genesis 19:28 NIV)
Abraham lived a whole different elevation than Lot. Maybe this was why it was easier for Abraham to obey; he could see a little more clearly what God was doing. When we go up with God we gain divine perspective on Kingdom things. It’s tough to discern what God is accomplishing whilst we are in the thick of it.
It was in this week’s reading that I realized, God wanted Lot to change elevation. The cities of Sodom and Gomorrah were about to be destroyed as a direct consequence of their sinful ways. Truly; the whole plain was about to burnt away. The angels dragged Lot and his family out by their limbs. Their instructions to Lot were crystal clear; flee to the mountains! But Lot didn’t just hesitate, he flat-out refused.
”But Lot said to them, “No, my Lords, please! Your servant has found favor in your eyes, and you have shown great kindness to me in sparing my life. But I can’t flee to the mountains; this disaster will overtake me, and I’ll die. Look, here is a town near enough to run to, and it is small. Let me flee to it—it is very small, isn’t it? Then my life will be spared.”“
(Genesis 19:18-20 NIV)Lot insisted that he couldn’t climb, he wasn’t capable of such elevation change. He lacked the muscle; mentally physically or spiritually. Once again, the man compromised. And it cost him dearly.
Think about it. What does it look like when we climb a mountain in a hurry? All our energy is focused on the task in front of us. Our feet find their way because our eyes and hands are fully engaged, focused on picking our path forward.
What happens when we get to the top? We catch our breath, turn around and take in the view.

The view from Masada; a rock plateau near the Dead Sea
in the region of Sodom and Gomorrah.I’d suggest that Lot’s compromise came with an exorbitant price tag. He was supposed to climb the mountain. Instead, he insisted on staying in the plain. God, in His mercy, spared Zoar. But from the small town in the middle of judgement everything looked like loss. Lot had a 360 degree view of destruction. It had to feel as the whole world was ending.
Two lasting troubles came from Lot’s compromise. His wife turned to salt and his daughters turned to incest. In the wake of the tragedy, Lot fought to forget what he’d seen by way of the bottle.
If Lot had obeyed and climbed the mountain, his wife would have been focused on the path before her instead of the past behind her. When the family got to the peak they would have seen Sodom and Gomorrah burning but they’d also have had a good view of an entire world beyond that sinful corner of existence. They would have found Abraham and his family, physical and spiritual kin. They would have had opportunity for courtship and families and restoration.
Instead they opted to sit in the center of destruction while it seeped into their souls. Each of them were poisoned by what they saw; things they were never supposed to take in because they were supposed to be long ago moved to higher elevation.
Here’s the thing: it’s hard to climb when we haven’t had practice. Lot had not exercised his obedience muscle in so long that when he finally went to use it, it atrophied. What he possessed in the way of spiritual strength was not enough to obey when it really mattered. There’s a lesson here for all of us.
Lot could have lived at a different altitude from the get go. He lived near enough to mountains, he could have climbed at any time. But his life of compromise made him comfy with sin, and then, when it really counted, he didn’t have the means to live out his ‘yes’.
Friends, rarely is altitude changed in a day. It’s incremental. God beckons up the path of His presence in small, steady steps.
“Not that I have already obtained all this, or have already arrived at my goal, but I press on to take hold of that for which Christ Jesus took hold of me. Brothers and sisters, I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus.“ hPhilippians 3:12-14 NIV)
Lord, please forgive us for our comfort with compromise. Lot’s tragedy is our tutelage. Urge us on in our growth toward You. May we continue to strive toward holiness, convince that the sweetest air is still higher. Give us strong limbs and perseverance as we climb nearer and nearer. May we gain enough ground to remain convinced, Your ways are higher. Amen.
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The Men of Advent: Wise Men (and Women) Still Worship

Matthew 2:7,9-12 (NLT) “7 Then Herod called for a private meeting with the wise men, and he learned from them the time when the star first appeared. … 9 After this interview, the wise men went their way. And the star they had seen in the east guided them to Bethlehem. It went ahead of them and stopped over the place where the child was. 10 When they saw the star, they were filled with joy! 11 They entered the house and saw the child with his mother, Mary, and they bowed down and worshiped him. Then they opened their treasure chests and gave him gifts of gold, frankincense, and myrrh. 12 When it was time to leave, they returned to their own country by another route, for God had warned them in a dream not to return to Herod.”
We’ve been focusing on the men of advent this month and for our final week of 2023, we’re going to learn from the journey of the wise men. After reading the above five verses, a few things are evident.
The wise have already made the choice to follow God’s lead. This story starts, and ends, with wise followers listening to, and obeying the leading of the Lord throughout the entire process. Start and end your day in communion with Him. Start and end each project, task or job by consulting His wisdom. Start everything you do with God, consult Him throughout the entire process, and end each endeavor by His side. In other words, live and abide in His presence.
James 1:5a (NLT) “If you need wisdom, ask our generous God, and he will give it to you…”
The wise realize that man’s wisdom is always limited in some way. A wise woman knows that God’s ways are always perfect, while man’s wisdom is inherently flawed. And once she grasps God’s wisdom, she proclaims it wherever she goes; she can’t help herself. The wise men were so consumed with their God-given purpose that they excitedly shared it with King Herod.
Isaiah 55:8-9 (NLT) “8 ‘My thoughts are nothing like your thoughts,’ says the Lord. ‘And my ways are far beyond anything you could imagine. 9 For just as the heavens are higher than the earth, so my ways are higher than your ways and my thoughts higher than your thoughts.’”
The wise are filled with joy, and they live every day, full of joy. A wise woman knows that happiness is circumstantial and hence, fleeting; it literally comes and goes. Joy, however, is something that is internal, rather than being dictated by external stimuli. She does not live downcast. She chooses to live in the strength that comes only from the joy of the Lord.
Nehemiah 8:10b (NLT) “Don’t be dejected and sad, for the joy of the Lord is your strength!”
The wise humble themself before God. A wise woman realizes that she can do nothing to control events, or produce desired outcomes; only God is sovereign. So, the next logical mindset for a wise woman is one of complete gratitude and humbleness in every moment. Just like Isaiah, the wise see God’s hand in every situation, even in the very idea of creation.
Isaiah 40:12 (NLT) “Who else has held the oceans in his hand? Who has measured off the heavens with his fingers? Who else knows the weight of the earth or has weighed the mountains and hills on a scale?’”
The wise are worshippers. Worship involves adoration and praise. It is a lifestyle that is both internal and can be seen externally as well. Worshippers are followers. They are compelled to draw near. A wise woman worships her God in spirit and in truth.
John 4:23-24 (NLT) “23 But the time is coming—indeed it’s here now—when true worshipers will worship the Father in spirit and in truth. The Father is looking for those who will worship him that way. 24 For God is Spirit, so those who worship him must worship in spirit and in truth.”
The wise feel compelled to give back. A wise woman realizes that everything she has (whether concrete or abstract), has been given to her by God. She is grateful for every gift that she has been given, even her very breath. The wise men were grateful; they refused to enter God’s presence empty-handed.
2 Corinthians 9:7-8 (NLT) “7 ‘You must each decide in your heart how much to give. And don’t give reluctantly or in response to pressure. For God loves a person who gives cheerfully.’ 8 And God will generously provide all you need. Then you will always have everything you need and plenty left over to share with others.”
The wise are led by the Holy Spirit. A wise woman doesn’t make a move without His leading. She is confident that her Heavenly Father sees and knows everything and He has already been working things out for her good from the beginning of time. She trusts His plan implicitly. The wise men weren’t afraid to change their plans, even if it meant letting King Herod down.
Psalm 31:14-15a (NLT) “14 But I am trusting you, O Lord, saying, “You are my God!” 15 My future is in your hands…”
And finally, the wise are in the business of saving. Because the wise men heeded the Holy Spirit, Joseph, Mary and Jesus the Messiah were saved from King Herod’s evil plan.
Proverbs 11:30b (AMP) “… he who is wise captures and wins souls [for God—he gathers them for eternity].”
The wise follow God’s leading.
They realize that although man’s ways are flawed, God’s ways are perfect.
They are full of joy.
The wise humble themselves before God.
They give back to God generously, and give to others.
They are consistently led by the Holy Spirit.
The wise are soul-winners.
Heavenly Father, teach me to be wise. Thank you for filling me with your Holy Spirit. Your comfort, wisdom, discipline, love, correction, teaching and discernment are invaluable and are indescribable gifts. May I continue to trust You and follow You today, and every day, wholeheartedly.
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Men of Advent: A Little Herod In Each of Us

"After Jesus was born in Bethlehem in Judea, during the time of King Herod," (Matthew 2:2 NIV)
Call it strange, but I’ve always been fascinated with Matthew 2’s contribution to the Christmas story. (Read that again, I said Matthew 2, not Luke 2!) Quite honestly, it’s not a pulpit-friendly Christmas text with the infanticide and all. Yet it’s still a part of the Christmas narrative, not nearly as neat and tidy as our our church versions.
I grew up in another denomination and in it, advent gapes across four full weeks every calendar year. My preacher-mother covered Herod and his issues with some regularity.
“There’s a little Herod in each of us!” she’d exclaim. Clad in her robe and stole, her words hit like revelation right from God instead of biblical insight from the woman who made my cinnamon toast.
I’ve long suffered from an over-active imagination and right away, a pint-sized Herod took up residence in my brain. He was a round little man, red-faced and flapping about in gold lame. That tiny totalitarian has endlessly insisted on his own way.
When we look at Herod, we see a crown held hostage by his own kingdom. Herod’s lust for power and privilege made him mad from the grasping; paranoid over every wind and footfall. History recalls him as Great, but I suspect he was actually a very small man. Very small indeed.

This is a model of Herod the Great’s palace at Masada.
He built it into the side of a high plateau so he could see his enemies approaching from any direction.Two thousand years ago, when Jesus arrived on scene, Herod was intrigued. The great man seemed to tamp down the envy long enough to make an arrangement with wise men on a mission. Herod had spies everywhere, so strangers from the East would have caught his attention quickly. When he learned of their intent –– in Bethlehem to worship a baby king –– he was furious. When he collected himself, he feigned interest. Even across a couple millennia, we can spot his insecurity.
"He sent them to Bethlehem and said, "Go and search carefully for the child. As soon as you find him, report to me, so that I too may go and worship him." (Matthew 2:8 NIV)
Though the star followers found the babe in the manger, they would never cross paths with Herod again. Herod didn’t anticipate being outsmarted by a few wise guys from out of town. Not shockingly, God had intervened on behalf of His Son and the learned men went home another way. Herod imploded on impact with the news.
What happened next is truly horrible. Absolutely, undeniably, heinous. Herod ordered the heartless destruction of every young boy in Bethlehem and the surrounding territory. He massacred all little guys under the age of two. We can’t fathom the wails of all the young mothers in a county crying out as their son were slaughtered.
We might insist that Herod had no intention of worshiping the infant monarch. We might believe murder was always his agenda. But who knows the heart of Herod?
Perhaps he was truly intrigued by the idea of worshiping someone larger himself. Perhaps an infant king caught his attention: ruling was hard and he wasn’t very good at it.
The truth is worship is far more demanding than we anticipate. There is a significant laying down of self when we surrender to a holy Other. We tend to look at Herod and think “What a monster!” without recognizing our own tyrannical tendencies. We must remember, there’s a little Herod in all of us, and left to his own devises, he will reap destruction.
We live in what Paul David Tripp calls competing kingdoms. There’s the Kingdom of God and the kingdom of self. The two kingdoms are mutually exclusive. The kingdom of self is tiny, turned-in and not nearly as sovereign as we’d like to think. As Herod, we attempt to rule our holdings with a heavy hand, and when the true King arrives on scene, we have to decide what to do with His glory.
We want to worship. In theory. It seems good to worship, good to cast our troubles off on an infant king. But time and growth require compounding submission and we can’t rule and surrender at the same time. We must die to our self. The abdication of the throne in our tiny yet strategic part of the Kingdom is critical to the gospel initiative.
So we struggle. Like Herod, we vacillate between worshiping the true King and getting our own way.
Beloved, our greatest spiritual battle isn’t against the dark forces outside our walls; it’s within. We fight the desires and appetites of our own personal, little kingdom. They wage war against the Kingdom of God. These impulses and preferences, left unchecked, will inevitably result in the destruction of others, just as they did for Herod. We will wind up trampling innocents in pursuit of what we want. (Have you seen the Black Friday Walmart footage?)
"When tempted, no one should say, "God is tempting me." For God cannot be tempted by evil, nor does He tempt anyone; but each person is tempted when they are dragged away by their own evil desire and enticed. Then, after desire is conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown gives birth to death." (James 1:13-15 NIV)
This Christmas, let’s intentionally work to kick Herod off his throne in our hearts. Let’s search for ways to worship the infant King and let’s seize opportunities to invest in His capital-K Kingdom. Let’s intentionally deny the tiny demanding king of self and instead exalt the King of Kings in this season. Let’s surrender all our holdings to the One who rules forever. We wave our white flag now or we will eventually fall in opposition. Let’s choose to stand on the right side of history.
"They will wage war against the Lamb, but the Lamb will triumph over them because He is Lord of Lords and King of Kings –– and with Him will be His called, chosen and faithful followers." (Revelation 17:14 NIV)
Lord, forgive us for holding fast to our tiny kingdoms. Today we’ve gotten a glimpse of our destructive potential. We are taken aback and we surrender anew. Sit on the throne of our lives as we commit to worship You. Amen.

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